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Why is Anxiety such a Worry?

Why is Anxiety such a Worry?

We live in an era where we are bombarded with news of natural disasters, terrorist attacks and world events that threaten our peace and security. These are streamed to us electronically 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Fear is a natural human response to enable us to deal with threatening or dangerous situations. Our brains are hard-wired to keep us safe. When we perceive something that is threatening our safety our bodies go into action. Adrenaline gets pumped into the bloodstream and muscles.

Trapeze Moments

There are times in life that I like to call 'trapeze moments', when you need to let go of one thing before reaching out and grabbing the next. The scary bit is the 'mid-air' bit between the two. What if you misjudge it? Do you even have a safety net?

Let's look at it from a different perspective. Metaphorically speaking, what experience do you have on a trapeze? Have you trained? Have you been here before? What was that like? Scary? Exhilarating? How did it work out? Did you successfully fly through the air and grab hold of the next trapeze or did you land in the safety net?

Attunement and the Therapeutic Relationship

During the first few years of life the ability of a mother to be attuned to the needs of her infant is crucial to their development. Failure at the early stages to create a sense of safety results in insecure attachment as research by theorists such as Bowlby and Winnicott tells us. However, from a secure attachment to a primary caregiver the child learns how to build relationships and feel safe in the world.  To provide a safe environment a parent needs to create boundaries – to be mindful of when the child is going too far and may hurt themselves or when they need to be encouraged to try new things.

Emotional Eating - An Exercise in Mindful Awareness

Eating Breakfast - A bowl of ‘fruit and fibre’. 

The first thing I did was lift out a raisin. I looked at it, examined it from all angles, felt the weight of it as I moved it from one hand to another. The texture, how hard it was. I then tasted it with my tongue which registered a slight sweet taste. I put it in my mouth and felt it sitting on my tongue. I moved it around my mouth and felt it softening. I squished it slightly with my teeth and noticed the taste more, how soft it was becoming.

What's stopping you reaching your potential?

What you believe about yourself may be limiting you and therefore holding you back from setting goals and carrying through with plans for your future. 

We can become stuck in a rut, comfortably miserable, unable to motivate ourselves and deeply unhappy with our lot in life. 

Ask yourself, what limits are you placing on yourself?  Have you longed to change something about yourself or your circumstances but lacked the conviction that you “could” change them? What’s holding you back? 

Getting Started in Therapy

When I meet with a client for the first time I might ask, “Why are you here?” “Why now?” “What do you want to get out of working with me?” Not because I’m trying to annoy you with endless questions but as a means of identifying how best you can use your time and energy, and let’s face it, your money, to get the best out of your counselling experience. 

It’s a bit like starting on a journey.  Unless you’re on a mystery tour and someone else is in charge of the destination you generally know where you want to go.
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